Nothing but heaven itself is better than a friend who is really a friend. ~Plautus
You know you have a true friend when, sitting in a nice restaurant, you start to feel a bit odd and exclaim that you might be about to have a seizure, she says, “That’s okay honey, just tell me what to do.”
And so Tracy is to me.
Tracy and I met at Ole Miss back in the day. (I don’t know the year; she remembers things like that, not me.) We didn’t bond right away but bound tight when we did. Our days at Ole Miss were a LOT of fun and filled with “what happened at Ole Miss stays in Ole Miss” stories. We remember them fondly.
Few of the friendships either of us had back then have survived past college but we have made it, through thick and thin and we have had our share of thick and thin! I was honored to be at her wedding, the births of both of her children (well, in the next room) and many birthday parties and other occasions. I’ve not reached those milestones yet (I’m a late-bloomer) but when I do, she will be right beside me, no doubt. She has helped with all of my moves and is a phone call away whenever I need her. She has never given up on me which is a feat in itself.
The best thing about Tracy is that, unlike SO many other people, she doesn’t want to or try to change me. She loves me and is patient with me just the way I am. If I want to change, she supports me with all of her heart but if I don’t want to change? That is fine by her too.
Everyone needs another person in whom they can be totally and completely comfortable, who they can trust to tell anything and know that it will never ever be told again and who will love them despite whatever it is. I may not ever find that in a romantic relationship, that one soulmate of a person, but I have it in Tracy. And, come what may in my life, that is good enough for me.
Love you, Tra.